Saturday, 8/10 – Answers for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse with Author, Speaker, Survivor Gary Roe

I am so looking forward to my show on Saturday, August 10. My good friend, Gary Roe will be in studio with me for the whole hour. Our topic? Answers for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. He, along with another long-time friend, Cec Murphy, has authored a tremendous resource to the body of Christ.

Let’s face it…based on the statistics, chances are you are either: married to, the sister of, daughter or, cousin of, or friend of a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I know it’s a difficult subject to address, but if it’s left in the dark, healing never comes and the abundant life Jesus came to give is never realized.

healed cvr 3.inddHere’s the truth. Survivors of sexual abuse face a long road to recovery, a journey in which they often ask, “Shouldn’t I be there by now?” Having faced the recovery process themselves, Cecil Murphey and Gary Roe, in Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse honestly and openly assure fellow survivors that healing is a process, which by definition means it doesn’t happen quickly—but it will happen.

Not only do the authors understand, encourage, explain, relate, and guide survivors to the path of healing, they shed light on eye-opening truths about abuse that are beneficial to family, friends and those in ministry. For example, the majority of survivors of childhood sexual abuse were kids who did not feel loved by or of value to their parents and sought the attention and affection of an adult who would show kindness to them. In fact, most perpetrators of sexual abuse (whether male or female) are adults a child not only knows, but trusts. Abusers have a keen ability to find and target such children and take advantage of their vulnerability and innocence.

A victim’s need for love, a sense of abandonment and violation of trust affects relationships for a lifetime. Most men experience difficulty in expressing their emotions, and male survivors feel less like real men if they admit their pain. However, as the writers proclaim, no one heals alone, and they hope the stories and experiences within Not Quite Healed will give readers strength to face the road ahead. Murphey and Roe know about struggling to rely on God, living behind a mask, dealing with flashbacks or wrestling with the need for forgiveness. They dive deep into the long-term effects of abuse such as pornography addiction, same-sex attraction, varying degrees of fear and anxiety and other behaviors spurred on by a need for approval and acceptance.

Gary was born and raised in North Texas and comes from a difficult background of abuse. He came to Christ at age 11 through the influence of friends and a Sunday School teacher. When 2011-09-22_17.50.56_312px-300x139his family disintegrated, another family took him in and treated him as their own. It was in this new environment that Gary experienced the love of Christ in a very powerful and practical way. This influence eventually led him to dedicate his life to Christ in full-time service.

Gary speaks and writes from more than 30 years of ministry, including campus ministry, church-planting in Japan, discipleship-training in Hawaii, and three pastorates in Texas and Washington. He now serves as a hospice chaplain, writer, and speaker in central Texas. He is the co-author (with New York Times Best-seller Cecil Murphey) of Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One (Harvest House, 2013) and Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (Kregel, 2013). He is also the author of Good Grief, a free web-based grief recovery course available through his website. He writes inspirational columns for several Texas newspapers and also contributes regularly to Shattering the Silence, Cecil Murphey’s blog ministry for sexual abuse survivors. Gary has three adopted daughters from Colombia and absolutely loves being a dad.

So mark your calendars now for Saturday, August 10, from 11AM to Noon CST on AM 630 KSLR or streaming live on or We’ll be giving away two free copies of the book, and the phone lines will be open for questions and comments. And, we will continue the conversation off the air at El Jarro’s Mexican Restaurant at 12:30 ( so plan to join Gary and I for a no host lunch.

8/3 Show – Shannon Ethridge Responds to Fifty Shades of Grey – LAVISH Founder Reaches Out to Women in the Sex Trade

I am so looking forward to the show this Saturday. Not only do I get to introduce you to my long time friend, Shannon Ethridge, but also my new friend Kayla Moilanen, founder of LAVISH.

During the first half of the show we’ll be talking to Shannon about her new book, The Fantasy Fallacy. In fact, we’ll have 5 copies to give away to the first 5 local callers!

The content of Fifty Shades of Grey turns most Christians fifty shades of red. As a result, the media hype and recent record-breaking sales of E.L. James’ trilogy has the Christian community largely at a loss for words . . . with the exception of Shannon Ethridge.

12_ShannonEthridge_300px_RGB-150x150Bestselling author of the Every Woman’s Battle series, life coach, speaker, and advocate for healthy sexuality, Shannon Ethridge responds with The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts (Thomas Nelson Publishers, October 2012).

“I definitely do not think that all fantasy is wrong,” Ethridge writes. “But, those fantasies which push the envelope beyond what is socially or spiritually acceptable are most often rooted in childhood trauma or unresolved pain. The goal of this book isn’t to judge whether fantasies are ‘right or wrong,’ but to help people examine sexual fantasies closely enough to recognize their roots and to invite God to help them heal their pain.”

Ethridge’s desire for her readers is clear, “If you read Fifty Shades of Grey, and were fascinated with it or freaked out by it, I believe The Fantasy Fallacy is going to help you ‘chew up the meat and spit out the bones’ when it comes to sexual fantasies. I’m praying the same prayer over you that I’ve prayed over myself – that God would give you eyes to view all things sexual through His lens, and no one else’s.”

Even those readers who are not familiar with the Fifty Shades of Grey titles will gain from Ethridge’s new book, which focuses on sexual thoughts and not just the recent book series. The author recommends an attitude of honesty about sexual thoughts for people of faith: “Just the word itself – fantasy – can illicit all kinds of anxiety among Christians. In fact, fantasy seems to be an even more taboo word than s-e-x!”

Shannon Ethridge recognizes the trepidation with which most Christians approach a dialogue about their own sexual thoughts but also understands the necessity for addressing these issues honestly. She helps readers consider the positive, encouraging aspects of healthy fantasy (imagination), including how it helps humans cope with unbearable pain and endure separation as well as how it can contribute to a healthy married sexual experience.

Shannon Ethridge earned a master’s degree in Counseling and Human Relations from Liberty University and is a certified life coach via the American Association of Christian Counselors. She has authored 17 books including the best-selling Every Woman’s Battle: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment and other “Every Woman” titles. Ethridge has counseled college-aged women since 1999 and has been a popular speaker with women of all ages for over two decades. Shannon Ethridge lives in the piney woods of East Texas with her husband of 23 years and their two children. Her blog can be found at

My second guest will be Kayla Moilanen, founder of LAVISH, a ministry that exists to love, support and empower women in the sex industry. I was introduced to Kayla by my social media163010_744526645725_2450545_n coach and friend, Lizzie Smiley. As we sat over coffee and I heard Kayla share how her burden to love the unloveable bloomed into a ministry to women working in the sex trade, I was floored. This is totally out of my comfort zone, but I am compelled to share her with you. Amazing how God orchestrated it on the day I would be interviewing Shannon Ethridge! How cool is that?

So, mark your calendar, and join us this Saturday, August 3 for another amazing time of affirming the faithfulness of God! 11am to Noon CST on AM 630 KSLR, streaming live on or And, yes, we’ll be continuing the conversation at El Jarro’s after the show…meet Kayla and I there at 12:30 at 281 and Bitters (

Recap of 7/29 PTSD, Domestic Violence, Living Victoriously after Trauma

In case you missed the show, here’s a copy of the podcast. The show actually starts at about 5:45 into the file.

IMG_3457[1]222333Well, I’ll tell you what, I could have talked to Dr. Regina Davis for hours on the topic of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Having spent years in ministry to Vietnam veterans and their families, I know full well the effects of PTSD on a person and a family, and not just those who’ve seen combat! This show will open your eyes to trauma that many women silently suffer under, domestic violence being one of the most compelling stories shared today, and how important it is for us to not isolate and hide the trauma but stay connected to safe women who can walk with us on this journey to wholeness. You can contact Dr. Davis at or by calling 210-241-4954.

We gave away 2 free one hour therapy sessions with Dr. Davis, valued at $130 each, and Martha Fisher, Director of Women’s Ministry at CBC shared an event coming up this Friday, August 2 where women can come together in a safe place and have a time of fun and fellowship. Girls’ Night Out from 6:30 to 8:30 at Community Bible Church this Friday night.

This Saturday, 7/27, Living Victoriously After Trauma with Dr. Regina Davis, and Director of Women’s Ministries at CBC, Martha Fisher

I am so thrilled to introduce you to my CBC choir buddy and your local PTSD expert, Dr. Regina Davis.

reginaDr. Regina Davis is a licensed clinical psychologist with 14 years of experience. She is also a university educator, conference speaker and, most importantly, an evangelist. She believes that emotional freedom is crucial to fulfilling our God-given destinies. Dr. Davis is dedicated to helping emotionally hurting people achieve healthy minds and productive lives and has a Christ-centered passion for helping trauma survivors.

The first two local callers who call in during the show will each receive one free session with Dr. Davis, each session valued at $130. We are going to discuss Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, the symptoms, and how they affect not only those currently on active duty, but veterans of any war, as well as those of us who have suffered trauma in our pasts, but not necessarily combat related.

I know from my many years of work with Vietnam veterans and their family members, those who are struggling with PTSD, or have a loved one who struggles with the symptoms, can feel very much alone, isolated, and not at all understood.

If you have questions about PTSD, the symptoms, or a specific issue related to trauma, we will be taking calls during the show, or you can post questions on my Facebook page ahead of time, (

During the last segment of the show, I’ll introduced you to Martha Fisher, Director of Women’s Ministries at Community Bible Church. There’s an exciting “Girls Night Out” event she’ll be telling us about martha fisherwhich could prove a great blessing to our listeners!

I look forward to spending my Saturday morning with you! 11am to noon CST, on AM 630 KSLR, streaming live on or

We will also be continuing the conversation “off the air” at El Jarro’s Mexican Restaurant, so Dr. Davis and I would love to have you join us at 12:30 for a no-host lunch!

Recap on 7/20 Former Bad Girl Liz Curtis Higgs and Grammy Winning Worship Leader/Songwriter Laura Story

In case you missed the show today with Liz Curtis Higgs and Laura Story, here’s the podcast!

Well, what an amazing show today. Lizzie was just delightful….it was so good to hear her “former bad girl” story and how God’s amazing grace rescued her, and how non-judgmental love overcame all her misconceptions about God. And how wonderful it was to hear more about her Bad Girls of the Bible and What We Can Learn From Them, updated book and new DVD…how good it was to hear her emphasis was not on how bad they (and we!) have been, but on how good our God is!

601239_10151328138438596_479121016_nI found this crazy picture of her on her Facebook page…love how some of her encouragers created this hilarious picture in honor of the Bad Girls message!

And for those of you in San Antonio, Lizzie will be here in October for the Women of Joy conference, October 4-6…and I’ll be hosting my show on site at the Women of Joy on October 5, so mark your calendar now and start saving your pennies…it will be a great weekend, for sure!


The last half of the show was an interview I did with Laura Story at the International Christian Retail Show last month…since she’s in town this weekend ministering at Oak Hills Church, I decided to play the interview today instead of laura story1waiting till the fall when her new album comes out. I must tell you, Laura is one of the most refreshing women I’ve ever met…so down to earth and easy to relate to! I just loved that she showed up at the biggest Christian shindig of the year where everyone is “dressed to the nines” in a very comfortable, casual outfit…completely unassuming and comfy! I just love that about her….she is a regular person that God is using in amazing ways. It was an honor to be able to visit with her and hear her heart for Him!

This Saturday, 7/20 – “Bad Girls of the Bible” author Liz Curtis Higgs & Grammy Award Winning Singer/Songwriter Laura Story

Join me this Saturday, July 20, from 11AM to Noon CST as I bring you some AMAZING guests…for the first half of the show I’ll introduce you to Liz Curtis Higgs. Former Bad Girl turned popular speaker, Bible study teacher, and New York Times bestselling author, since writing Bad Girls of the Bible 15 years ago, Liz has taken more than a million women for a walk on the wild side.

Liz-Curtis-Higgs-Podcast-1She has updated the book with the addition of an in-depth study guide and new discussion questions as well as an all-new companion DVD. Through this new project, Higgs gives another generation the opportunity to take a verse-by-verse look at some of the Bible’s most notorious women and how they reveal God’s grace anew.

“We are not here to judge the bad girls. We are here to learn from them,” explains Higgs on the Bad Girls of the Bible DVD. “Our focus is not on the badness of people, but on the goodness of God.”

Bad Girls of the Bible is laced with humor, solid research, and heartfelt self-disclosure. A teacher known for eye-opening insights, Higgs consulted 50 commentaries and 10 different Bible translations in bringing these Bad Girls into the 21st century. The new Bad Girls of the Bible companion DVD is perfect for group or personal study, with 10 segments lasting 10-12 minutes each—a total of 120 minutes of insightful and compelling teaching filmed before a live audience.

If you’re not connected with Liz online, here’s a taste of what you’re missing!

Here’s the Latest News from Lizzie:

Debuting on YouTube this week, “Bad Girls Gone Jazz”! Meet ten biblical Bad Girls in less than two minutes:
On my Bible Study Blog this summer we’re unpacking The 20 Verses You Love Most:
And on Pinterest this month, I’ve created boards for all ten of our Bad Girls of the Bible:

During the second half of the show, I’ll bring you Laura Story, a talented worship leader and songwriter known for penning hit songs such as “Indescribable” made famous by Chris Tomlin and the smash inspirational hit “Blessings.”  It topped the iTunes® Christian/Gospel Top Songs chart and held the No. 1 spot for 28 consecutive weeks, and Story took home the GRAMMY® Award for Best Contemporary Christian Song, the Billboard Music Award for Top Christian Song laura storyas well as Dove Awards for Song of the Year, Pop/Contemporary Song of the Year, Pop/Contemporary Album of the Year and Songwriter of the Year. Her first book, What If Your Blessings Come Through Raindrops?, released in 2012 and was inspired by her Grammy and Dove Award-winning hit song, “Blessings.”

Laura will be in concert at Oak Hills Church this weekend, so I thought playing the pre-recorded interview this weekend was a good fit. We met together at the International Christian Retail Show last month in St. Louis, and I originally was going to play the interview this fall when her new album is released, but you know how God likes to change it up! J

I have to say, she was one of the most refreshing and authentic interviews I had the pleasure of recording…her humility and love for God was so sweet and a wonder to behold…you’ll love hearing “the story behind the story”…

Listen in this Saturday, July 20 at 11AM CST on AM630 KSLR or live streaming through or

And YES, even though I won’t have anyone in studio with me, I will be continuing the conversation off the air at El Jarro’s Mexican Restaurant at 12:30 (281 and Bitters by the Party Store)…

Looking forward to spending my Saturday morning with you all!

Recap on Interview with Rhonda Rhea on Caring for Our Aging Mommas…

In case you missed the show, here’s the podcast for you to listen to!

Saturday, 7/13/2013  Radio Personality, Author & Comedienne, Rhonda Rhea and Host Athena Dean discuss “Caring for our Aging Mommas at the End of Their Lives”

7743_4429847359432_603925717_nYes, I have some pretty crazy friends on my show…and Rhonda Rhea is one of them (she’s the one to the far left)…our time together in St. Louis was filled with laughter, yet laced with serious moments remembering the time we each shared with our moms at the end of their lives. I played her interview during the first half of last week’s show since I was in Southern California for my Momma’s memorial service.

I took the second half of the show to share my Facebook posts that chronicled my four months of caring for my Momma before she went to heaven…emotionally charged, they mirror my healing during that time and show how faithful God was during that time in my life.

Hope you enjoy the show and see God at work in the mundane and the marvelous, as I always like to say!


Recap on 7/6 Show with Dr. Ron Eaker, My Favorite Hormone Expert!

If you missed the show, here’s the podcast

eaker2What a blast it was to interview my friend, Dr. Ron Eaker. He’s the author of “A Woman’s Guide to Hormone Health: The Creator’s Way for Managing Menopause” and what a blessing it was to hear how he stood firm on keeping God in the middle of the book instead of just making it a book about menopause. I love how God was faithful to give him the courage to stand against popular opinion and emphasize the importance of physical, emotional and spiritual wellness when it comes to our hormones…praise God!51qAbEpmNrL._BO2,204,203,200_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-click,TopRight,35,-76_AA300_SH20_OU01_

If you weren’t one of today’s winners, I would encourage you to get a copy of the book…This guide through the often turbulent storms of menopause and the years leading up to it gives women answers they can trust and apply to their lives. Dr. Eaker combines the best medical information available with biblical wisdom to help women handle the natural changes occurring in their lives. His 20 years of medical practice allow him to speak with authority as well as compassion as he offers options and solutions, encouraging women to actively participate in their health care. Topics of concern such as exercise, diet, nutrition, and osteoporosis are addressed as part of a healthy lifestyle. The book includes discussion of PMS and perimenopause, as well as menopause, making it a must-have for women from 30 to 60.

We had some great call in questions and Dr. Ron did a great job clearly answering questions…I learned a lot!

Topic for July 13 – Adult Children Caring for their Parents at the End of Life

Join us on Saturday, July 13 as I interview my friend and handler of hilarity, Rhonda Rhea.

5bf01f9237e70a7f023547.L._V136915004_SX200_Rhonda is a pastor’s wife and mother of five. A radio personality living in the St. Louis area. and in addition to regular radio features, Rhonda also appears on radio and TV programs throughout the country, as well as enjoying many appearances on Focus on the Family’s “Weekend Magazine” radio program.

Rhonda Rhea is a humor columnist for publications in the US and Canada. She has written hundreds of columns and articles for great publications such as Today’s Christian Woman, Christian Parenting Today, Marriage Partnership, SBC LIFE, HomeLife, ParentLife and dozens more. She is the author of:

  • Espresso Your Faith: 20 Shots of God’s Word to Keep You Focused on Christ
  • How Many Lightbulbs Does It Take to Change a Person?—Bright Ideas for Delightful Transformation
  • High Heels in High Places—Walking Worthy in Way Cute Shoes
  • Who Put the Cat in the Fridge?—Serving Up Hope and Hilarity Family Style
  • Amusing Grace—Hilarity and Hope in the Everyday Calamity of Motherhood

Why am I talking to Rhonda about the topic of caring for a parent at the end of their life? Well, she and I both cared for our Momma’s at the end of their lives and were with them as they left this world and entered Heaven.

I can’t wait to introduce you to Rhonda…she is delightful, funny, and poignant. I know you’ll enjoy her!

Then I’ll take the last half of the show to share my four-month journey of care-giving my late 90 year old Momma who suffered from advanced Alzheimer’s and was on Hospice when I came to help my brother care for her in late November of last y ear. I shared my journey in posts on my Facebook page and poured out my heart with the ups and downs of the experience. I believe the healing I received along the way will be a blessing to you as well.

Join us at from 11AM to Noon on Saturday, July 13 on AM 630 KSLR, or streaming live on or

Because I’ll be attending the memorial service for my Momma in Southern California during the time of my show, it will be pre-recorded. Please pass the word about the show…it will be a powerful time of addressing an eventuality that many of us will need to prepare our hearts to experience. It is an honor and a privilege to be used by the Lord to serve those who gave us life…so I pray our insights can be helpful to you all!

Recap on June 29 Show – Avoiding Burnout and Miraculous Healing

Here’s the podcast in case you missed it: Saturday, 6/29/2013 Author of “Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World”, Speaker and Counselor Lucille Zimmerman, and Media Missionary to Missionaries Melody Warford 

Pondering our last show and all that God shared  with us in the two interviews.

529411_4533212538526_1991371067_nFirst was Lucille Zimmerman…(in the goofy picture to the left, she’s on the left) … such a powerful message for us…not only to take the time to put ourselves on our “to do “ list, but to slow down and allow solitude to become part of our lives…rather than fearing it and associating it with loneliness, realizing it is a time God draws close and intimacy occurs between us and our Maker…to realize the importance of sharing our secrets…of being vulnerable and transparent…and the power this produces in our relationships.

We gave away 3 copies of her book “Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World” (Abington Press 2013) and if you weren’t one of the winners, I would encourage you to get a copy….a powerful resource….especially for those of us who tend to be workaholic types / type A’s!

For more information on Lucille’s ministry visit

And then there was Melody Warford (on the left in the goofy picture on the right!)…what an incredible story of God’s healing power and His love to answer the prayers of His people! He healed her of Hodgkin’s disease and a major brain tumor…how faithful is our God? Her point of how 429348_443375135713060_555404722_nthe worst of times can really be the best of times, as they allow us a closeness to God in the midst of the storm that we don’t usually experience in good times. I love that…it is SO true! And then to use her in media ministry to missions and ministries…I so appreciate that about God!

If you’d like to get involved in her media ministry, Stone Soup Media, visit her at