Recap/Podcast 11/30 Grieving During the Holidays with Hospice Chaplain Gary Roe

Here’s the podcast in case you missed the live show.

What an important show this was…so many hurting people during this time of the year. Gary did such a great job articulating WHY the holidays are so hard, and what we can do to !Survivingthe Holidays2500x1563-Amazon-Smashwords-Kobo-Applemake them work for us instead of against us. If you know someone who is hurting during the holidays, pass this show on to them…and encourage them to get a copy of Gary’s new book, “Surviving the Holidays Without You: Navigating Grief During Special Seasons.”

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Starting Monday, December 2, Gary is launching a Holiday Grief Campaign, getting the word out that there IS hope for the hurting during the holidays, and also to equip the rest of us to be safe people to those who are grieving during this difficult time of the year. For more information on the campaign and Gary Roe, visit www.garyoe.com.

Saturday, 11/30 – Grieving During the Holidays with Hospice Chaplain Gary Roe

I am so excited to welcome back to Always Faithful my good friend. For the last two weeks we’ve been working non-stop to get this resource ready for this upcoming show, so I am honored to have Gary share his powerful new book “Surviving the Holidays Without You: Navigating Grief During Special Seasons.”

In this resource, Hospice chaplain Gary Roe offers a powerful grief survival kit designed for the holidays. Speaking from both personal and professional grief experiences, he will empower the reader to navigate special seasons with new confidence.

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Holidays are difficult, especially when you’re grieving the loss of someone you love. You find yourself faced with a host of challenges. You wonder how to:

  • deal with unspoken yet powerful expectations, your own and others’
  • handle continual memories and reminders of your loved one
  • face feeling misunderstood, lonely, and isolated
  • process unpredictable emotions and feeling vulnerable
  • take yourself and your own heart seriously
  • make good choices -what to do, how, and with whom

Finding your way to grieve well over the holidays can be overwhelming without a trusted guide. Gary knows your pain and will walk beside you, offering effective tools to help you face the holidays with hope rather than apprehension.

If you’re grieving, or know someone else who is and want to know how best to help them, tune in this Saturday, November 30, from 11:00 AM to Noon CST on AM 630 KSLR, or streaming live on www.kslr.com or www.iheartradio.com.

After the show, Gary and I will head over to El Jarro’s at 12:30 pm for a no host lunch, and would love to have you join us to continue the conversation off the air.

Recap 9/14 “Learning to Grieve Well” with Hospice Chaplain and Author Gary Roe

In case you missed the show, here’s the link to the podcast:

What a delight it was to have Gary Roe back in the studio with me today. We talked extensively about his new book with New York Times bestselling author Cecil Murphey, Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One.

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There were so many common sense, practical tips given to help us prepare for the inevitable, and to be a blessing to our loved one, and appreciate the blessing they have been to us. The bittersweet aspects of losing a loved one can actually be embraced and appreciated, with the right tools. Tools that will help you keep your focus on Jesus and take healthy steps to leave nothing left unsaid, and take care of any unfinished business between the two of you. Oh and then there’s the importance of taking care of yourself, so you really can be a blessing to your loved one as you care for them during this stressful time.

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So many good points made…and such a good resource for everyone. After all, death is a part of life, and there’s no getting around experiencing the loss of a loved one (well, unless you go first!)…so you might as well get prepared to be a blessing and not a curse.

For more info on Gary’s ministry or his free online course, Good Grief, visit www.garyroe.com.

Saturday 9/14 – Learning to Grieve Well with Hospice Chaplain Gary Roe

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Can’t wait to have my good friend back in the studio this next Saturday! This time the topic will be Learning to Grieve Well and we’ll be discussing his new book, co-authored with NYT bestselling author Cecil Murphey, Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One.

Learning how to face death in a way that glorifies God is an important task for all women to accomplish, and tools that will help us learn as well as teach our children and other loved ones are vital. This resource is one of the best I’ve seen in over 20 years in the publishing business…compelling content, touching stories, lovely artwork, and practical tips on how to prepare for the loss of a loved one and how to grieve well. What has been a taboo subject in many families is brought into the light with hope and empathy. You can prepare to be a blessing to those you love….even if you aren’t facing the death of a loved one now, there’s no doubt you will someday…so don’t miss this show! And pass on this post to let others know!

11AM to Noon CST, 9/14/2013 on AM 630 KSLR, or streaming live on http://saleminteractivemedia.com/ListenLive/Player/KSLRAM.

And, as usual, we’ll continue the conversation after the show at El Jarro’s. Gary and I will arrive there at 12:30 and look forward to meeting you in person!

Recap on 8/10 – Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse with Gary Roe

If you missed the show, here’s the podcast:

What an absolutely amazing show…so full of truth and clarity and answers for those struggling with the fallout of childhood sexual abuse. Gary Roe, author, speaker, and survivor shared from his book “Not Quite Healed: 40 Answers for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse” and provided profound helps for those who share his pain.

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Gary shared the common struggles of survivors, the lies they believe, and the truth needed to combat those lies. He knows because he has been there, and God has helped him process in a way that touches others in deep and significant ways.

I am in awe of the way the Lord is using his and Cec Murphey’s story of abuse and healing…it’s time to shine the light on this tabu subject and chase the darkness away!

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For more info on Gary’s ministry, visit www.garyroe.com.

Spread the Word – 8/10 Show on Answers for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

healed cvr 3.inddI know you may be thinking…I thought this was a women’s show? Well, it is (even though I have growing numbers of men who listen in as well). And here’s why I believe this is a subject we cannot avoid discussing.

I’ve asked Gary Roe to join me this Saturday for the 8/10 edition of Always Faithful, because he is one of the most credible authors I know on the topic. He is a survivor, and a servant-leader who is committed to helping others heal.

As you’ll see below, the stats show 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18, but further down you’ll see that boys/men tend NOT to report their victimization. So what does that mean to you, a woman? That means chances are high that you are either married to, a sister to, a cousin to, an in-law to, a daughter of, or a friend of an adult male who was victimized as a boy. Some of them may not even be aware of the abuse, since the memories often do not surface until later in life.

So, I want to invite you to join Gary and I this Saturday from 11AM to Noon CST on AM 630 KSLR or streaming live on the web at www.kslr.com. And please, help me pass the word. Share this post on your social networks and tell your friends to listen in. We, as women, need to understand how this kind of wounding affects the men in our lives, and know how to protect the boys in our care.

After the show Gary and I will be “continuing the conversation off the air” at El Jarro’s Mexican Restaurant at 281 and Bitters…I hope you will join us!

Gary speaks and writes from more than 30 years of ministry, including campus ministry, church-planting in Japan, discipleship-training in Hawaii, and three pastorates in Texas and Washington. He now serves as a hospice chaplain, writer, and speaker in central Texas. He is the co-author (with New York Times Best-seller Cecil Murphey) of Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One (Harvest House, 2013) and Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (Kregel, 2013). He is also the author of Good Grief, a free web-based grief recovery course available through his website. He writes inspirational columns for several Texas newspapers and also contributes regularly to Shattering the Silence, Cecil Murphey’s blog ministry for sexual abuse survivors. Gary has three adopted daughters from Colombia who are also abuse survivors, and absolutely loves 906422_10151609534521337_1371974228_obeing a dad.

How prevalent is child sexual abuse?

  • Some CDC research has estimated that approximately 1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls are sexually abused before the age of 18.
  • Other governmental research has estimated that approximately 300,000 children are abused every year in the United States.
  • However, accurate statistics on the prevalence of sexual abuse of children and adolescents are difficult to collect because it is vastly underreported and there are differing definitions of what constitutes sexual abuse.
  • Boys (and later, men) tend not to report their victimization, which may affect statistics. Some men even feel societal pressure to be proud of early sexual activity regardless of whether it was unwanted.
  • Boys are more likely than girls to be abused outside of the family.
  • Most mental health and child protection professionals agree that child sexual abuse is not uncommon and is a serious problem in the United States.

http://www.apa.org/pi/families/resources/child-sexual-abuse.aspx

Saturday, 8/10 – Answers for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse with Author, Speaker, Survivor Gary Roe

I am so looking forward to my show on Saturday, August 10. My good friend, Gary Roe will be in studio with me for the whole hour. Our topic? Answers for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. He, along with another long-time friend, Cec Murphy, has authored a tremendous resource to the body of Christ.

Let’s face it…based on the statistics, chances are you are either: married to, the sister of, daughter or, cousin of, or friend of a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I know it’s a difficult subject to address, but if it’s left in the dark, healing never comes and the abundant life Jesus came to give is never realized.

healed cvr 3.inddHere’s the truth. Survivors of sexual abuse face a long road to recovery, a journey in which they often ask, “Shouldn’t I be there by now?” Having faced the recovery process themselves, Cecil Murphey and Gary Roe, in Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse honestly and openly assure fellow survivors that healing is a process, which by definition means it doesn’t happen quickly—but it will happen.

Not only do the authors understand, encourage, explain, relate, and guide survivors to the path of healing, they shed light on eye-opening truths about abuse that are beneficial to family, friends and those in ministry. For example, the majority of survivors of childhood sexual abuse were kids who did not feel loved by or of value to their parents and sought the attention and affection of an adult who would show kindness to them. In fact, most perpetrators of sexual abuse (whether male or female) are adults a child not only knows, but trusts. Abusers have a keen ability to find and target such children and take advantage of their vulnerability and innocence.

A victim’s need for love, a sense of abandonment and violation of trust affects relationships for a lifetime. Most men experience difficulty in expressing their emotions, and male survivors feel less like real men if they admit their pain. However, as the writers proclaim, no one heals alone, and they hope the stories and experiences within Not Quite Healed will give readers strength to face the road ahead. Murphey and Roe know about struggling to rely on God, living behind a mask, dealing with flashbacks or wrestling with the need for forgiveness. They dive deep into the long-term effects of abuse such as pornography addiction, same-sex attraction, varying degrees of fear and anxiety and other behaviors spurred on by a need for approval and acceptance.

Gary was born and raised in North Texas and comes from a difficult background of abuse. He came to Christ at age 11 through the influence of friends and a Sunday School teacher. When 2011-09-22_17.50.56_312px-300x139his family disintegrated, another family took him in and treated him as their own. It was in this new environment that Gary experienced the love of Christ in a very powerful and practical way. This influence eventually led him to dedicate his life to Christ in full-time service.

Gary speaks and writes from more than 30 years of ministry, including campus ministry, church-planting in Japan, discipleship-training in Hawaii, and three pastorates in Texas and Washington. He now serves as a hospice chaplain, writer, and speaker in central Texas. He is the co-author (with New York Times Best-seller Cecil Murphey) of Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One (Harvest House, 2013) and Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (Kregel, 2013). He is also the author of Good Grief, a free web-based grief recovery course available through his website. He writes inspirational columns for several Texas newspapers and also contributes regularly to Shattering the Silence, Cecil Murphey’s blog ministry for sexual abuse survivors. Gary has three adopted daughters from Colombia and absolutely loves being a dad.

So mark your calendars now for Saturday, August 10, from 11AM to Noon CST on AM 630 KSLR or streaming live on http://www.kslr.com or http://www.iheartradio.com. We’ll be giving away two free copies of the book, and the phone lines will be open for questions and comments. And, we will continue the conversation off the air at El Jarro’s Mexican Restaurant at 12:30 (www.eljarro.com) so plan to join Gary and I for a no host lunch.